For ages, there has been an emphasis on the person you marry being the first (and only) person you sleep with, especially for woman. It makes you 'pure,' the 'good wife.' Traditionally speaking, it determines the color of your dress on your wedding day.
Meanwhile, no one looks at who you've said "I love you" too. If you've loved another man, you're still in the clear, as long as you didn't sleep with him. I disagree with this choice of what to applaud. Shouldn't love be much more intimate and reserved than sex? Why is it okay in our culture to throw those three words around like birdseed, yet your sexual past is so vital to your moral being? I personally think that people who are too easy to use the words "I love you" are making a much bigger mistake than those who are... well too easy.
I know that I am much prouder to say that I am marrying the first man I've ever loved (and the only one I've ever told I loved with the exception of family, and my chocolate lab) than I would have been to say that I'd married the first man I slept with.
Do you think society has it's priorities wrong, in emphasizing holding out on sex over holding out on love?
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